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Call Your Girlfriend -- I'm Doing Virtual Consults!

Here to tell you about my phone and video consultation services!

Okay okay okay, truth be told, I HATE talking on the phone. I don’t even like FaceTime chats except to see my baby nephew so this has been a stretch for me. BUT I loving it.

image via  Mere Street

image via Mere Street

I was asked to start doing phone consultations by a former client who is building a network of experts to reach Chinese families around the globe who are trying to find more holistic parenting resources. It started as short video workshops (that was challenging enough for me as a rambler) and merged into phone consultations for small groups of parents interested in holistic sleep education. That lead to phone consultations for doula contract writing, prenatal education with families outside my services areas, and more. It’s inspired me to keep going.


I’m going to start offering almost all of my services virtually from now on -- Well Woman Consultations, Pregnancy Consultations, Postpartum Prep Consultations, Sleep Support Consultations, and Doula Contract Writing Consultations and Classes.


Here’s what each might look like :

Well woman consultations :

After you reach out about wanting to work with me to find a more tailor-fit approach to your hormonal and reproductive health care, I’ll send you one of my whopping 10 page intake forms to fill out and send back to me. You can sign up for 1+ hour of support over the phone or video, we’ll pick a day and time, and that’ll be when we can go over your needs and wishes for care.


After we chat, I’ll do a bit of research and reach out to my network for good recommendations in your area and send you a detailed email with everything you need. If you want to keep working with me, we can do so in the same manner on and hour-to-hour basis or you can jump into one of my annual or 6-month packages for further support.

We’ll cover everything from nutrition to seeking a primary care provider to navigating tricky hormonal issues to birth control options, and more.

I’m very dedicated to working with young persons and their parents/guardians to help them navigate the transition from pediatric into reproductive/gynecological health care that’s supportive, inclusive, expansive, respectful of the enormity of these age transformations, and doesn’t scare them out of routine care. We can work as a team and have private sessions so everyone feels comfortable and connected in this process. Privacy, compassion, and empowerment are the keys here and I’d love to be a guide for you and/or your child in this process.


Pregnancy consultations :

These can work the same as my in-person package options where you can sign up for a 2 hour consult at any point in pregnancy or the full 10 month support package. After you let me know what might work best for you (and if you start with the 2 hours and want to jump into a larger package, that fee will just be transferred over), I’ll send you a detailed intake form so you can let me know about your pregnancy journey so far and fill me in on what I might be able to help you with going forward.

For some families, you’re just looking for extra information on a specific topic like choosing a care provider, GBS testing, nutrition, finding a doula, home or birth center birth vs hospital birth options, how to find and interpret high quality research and information, information on comfort measures in birth, or other singular topics.

Other families want to get the support they would traditionally get from an independent midwife (minus the clinical testing) that they aren’t able to access for any reason and want to have me fill in a lot of the huge gaps left in our maternal care system.

With ten years of experience supporting pregnant persons in all sorts of ways (childbirth educator, doula, midwifery student, infant care specialist, researcher, doula trainer) and in many different states, countries, and settings, I’m here for all of it! If you feel like my style is the best fit for you, or you feel like you’re not finding what you need in your area at this time, let me help you virtually!


Postpartum Consultations :

Feeling like you’re not getting the resources on what to expect once baby is home? Feeling like you’re getting a lot of conflicting information or information too focused on risk and fear and opinion? Wanting an infant and mama/birthing person healing crash course done on your own time and with your specific family’s needs in mind? Let’s set up a call or video to go over what you need to know. This also can be done as a one-time 2 hour session or as part of the broader packages.

Unlike traditional newborn basics or breastfeeding classes now widely offered, these consultations don’t follow a standard system. Instead, they are focused on the concerns you have individually and specific to what you feel you’re not getting. We can set these up before baby arrives (ideally) or up to 4 months after baby is here. This can be a truly awesome baby shower gift!

I offer discounts for group consultations, so if you have a few friends or a parent’s group of expectant/new folks due around your same time (minimum 4 participants), the price is dropped to $20 per participant per hour.


Sleep Consultations :

Wanting some basics in infant sleep expectations? Not sure you want to sleep train or what sleep training even entails? Wanting a holistic and personalized approach to discussing sleep difficulties without fear or judgement? Need a point person on standby for those crazy weeks of transitioning sleep schedules? That’s me!

Lack of sleep is one of the number one challenges parents face in the first few months with a new babe. There is no way to make this obstacle disappear -- it’s part of the process, sorry to tell you. However, so much of the sleep training information floating around is not routed in good science or good practice and often leaves families feeling more stressed and tired. This often leads to them either ditching their goals for compassionate sleep adjustment sooner than they’d like, or makes them feel like giving up even trying to get babe to sleep on their own. There is a middle path, friends!

For better or worse, this middle ground takes a lot of extra support, guidance, and respect for nuance. Rosewood consultations aim for realistic, quality information-driven, and non judgemental discussions around safe, healthy, and lengthier sleep options. This isn’t a promise of X hours or a leave your baby to scream bullet point plan, no-sir no-thanks.

There is an option to have a 2 hour basic rundown of common sleep issues and information you can access while still pregnant, or you can reach out to me once baby is here and you feel you need more advice, either as a 2 hour consult or as part of a larger package based on your needs. This can also be a group virtual class at the $20 per person per hour rate (for at least 4 registered participants).


Doula Contract Consultations :

Let’s face it, most doula trainings leave you totally in the dark about how to write a contract that really protects you or supports your individual practice.

With a one-on-one contract consultation and edit, we can work together to go over the basics of contract writing (I send you my full how-to booklet once you register), using your contract to set up healthy and cooperative expectations for yourself and your clients, how long to keep a contract, what goes in your contract vs on your website or handouts, myth-busting scary legal language and legal fears, and how this practice can evolve and grow and be a benefit to your wider doula community.

Individual virtual edits are 2 hours of prep on my end going over your material as-is, 2 hours of virtual meeting time, and 2 email follow ups built in with the option of adding more at a low hourly rate.

Virtual group classes can be done at an hourly rate of $100 per hour for any size group. I’ve loved talking to doula groups and collectives around the country about how to use this exercise together to create better contracts and support one another in this often difficult work.  


Want to bring me to your group or training organization in person? I’d love that! We can chatrates and options, so please reach out.

Rates for virtual consults are the same as in person consultations at this time and can be found on my Services and Doula pages. As always, sliding scale and some trades are options to keep this type of support accessible in many areas.

If you are part of a parent’s network or group and think I’d be a good fit for one of your gatherings, please reach out! I love discussing specific topics families want more information on like holistic sleep advice, environmental parenting, choosing a care provider, finding a doula, and more.

If you are a doula group and want me to speak (virtually or if possible in person) about one of my specific focus areas, LET’S CHAT! I do it all the time and love meeting and teaching doulas from all over.




Plastic Free Periods

Hey friends, here again to complain about P L A S T I C.

I’m deep into some research on the plastic - hormone connection so I can be better informed for my clients on this topic. The evidence is compelling, long standing, and clear : Plastics contribute to our changing hormonal landscape for the worse.

super cute illustration with permission from @kissmyangst

super cute illustration with permission from @kissmyangst

There are loads of ways we can reduce our plastic consumption, everything from ditching the plastic water bottles and leftover containers to purchasing fewer items that come in plastic containers.

One huge way we can lower our environmental imprint and help adjust our hormones back to healthy levels is to swap out plastic period products for more sustainable and healthful options. Though studies have shown that the concern around dioxin in bleached tampons and pads might be minimally risky to most, the petrolum-based chemicals and plastics in the absorbant materials, fragrances, and other dyes and packaging has not been properly studied in regards to period products, but have been shown to be in dangerously high quantity in our everyday environment. Most period products are petroleum-based plastics through and through. The packaging they come in, the applicators, the sticky bits, the material they’re made from, the chemicals they’re soaked in...it all comes from petrol plastics and made by some of the worst corporate environmental companies around.

plastic free period via Natracare

An added bonus to switching to reusable period items -- many of these brands are run by progressive women and often have components of their business practices that focus on wider environmental impacts, ending period stigma, and creating more access to sanitary items for those who need it most. This feels like a win-win-win. Oh wait...there’s more! Reusable period products are more cost effective. Reusable period products help you get in touch with your own anatomy. Reusable period products reduce common infections and don’t come with the scary reality of toxic shock syndrome. So WHAT ARE YOU WAITING FOR!?


Here are a few great options :

  • Reusable period underwear from Thinx, Moon Undies, Sustain Natural, and more

  • Washable pads from loads of great companies like Luna Pads, Glad Rags, and about a million small vendors on Etsy and maybe at your local natural market.

  • Sea Sponge - Okay, this is usually the hardest sell, but I love mine for backpacking. You can trim this little guy down to the size that’s the most comfortable for you and there’s zero added anything to be concerned about.

  • Soft menstrual cups from Lunette (you can buy it from Zero Waste Shop and have it shipped plastic free, too!), a natural rubber one from Fair Squared, the XO cup from Glad Rags, the Keeper Cup, the Bella Cup, the Ruby Cup (they donate a cup for everyone you buy), the Zero Cup (their insta page is DOPE), the UltuCup, and a million others.


Not ready for a full conversion, Natracare uses organic cotton and low/no plastic in their products and packaging.


Without going on a total tirade, I also want to point out the issues around using baby wipes around your period both for your health (loads of toxins you’re just schmering directly into your vagina) and the environment, but I’ll let some of these articles do the work for me. If you want some ideas on how to make your own sustainable and healthy wet wipes, here are a few cool options.

  • A full how-to for making and using reusable wipes

  • “Wet bags” for portability and all natural spray for wetting the wipes from Bum Genius

  • More info on the chemicals in baby wipes along with a super easy how to for DIY natural and reusable wipes


Hope this helps you have a safer, healthier, happier period free of plastic. I give $5 off every hour of consulting services if you bring period products to our appointments for me to donate. Reusable items are tricky for those who need it most (I usually donate items to a women’s shelter in SF) so anything is welcome, but if you can swing it, organic items with minimal packaging would be awesome!

Unpopular Opinion : I don't do yoga and I don't care if you do

Ok ok ok. The headline is meant to be snarky. Doesn't make it less true for me, though. 

I don't do yoga.

I used to. When I was living in NYC and was starting to ease up on my heavy amount of dance classes, I would take this one yoga class religiously. Even when friends would come to visit me over the weekend, I'd leave them at my favorite Greek diner across the street from the gym so I could make it to my noon on Sunday power yoga class. This teacher was amazing -- her thick Korean accent peppered an hour of challenging flow that always seemed to fit together like a perfect jigsaw puzzle. The class was full, but never overly crowded. I was never bored. My body felt amazing after. 

Since that time, however, I have never once taken a yoga class I fully enjoyed. And I've tried, trust me. Not dancing 6x a week meant that I had to outsource my typically long stretching routines and yoga seemed like a great way to to it, so I tried. And tried. And tried. I've tried in 4 other states, 7 other cities, 2 other countries since then. Everyone is always telling me to do it so I tried my darndest, damnit! 

It's not because I have been enlightened to what crap yoga is, guys. I'm not and that's not my point. The point is that yoga...or any other one modality of anything...is not necessarily the answer to everything for everyone

How many hours of my life have I wasted doing something I honestly don't like? How much money? Why did I let myself get talked into it so often? 

Broad City's community yoga experience...we've all been there, yeah?

Broad City's community yoga experience...we've all been there, yeah?

Part of it is that I feel a bit like a trader not being into this thing that nearly every one of my colleagues have as part of their lives and/or practices. Yoga seems to have glided into the idea of "wellness" more so than nearly any other thing, and birth work is far from an exception. Honestly, I’ve felt downright judged from many in my work circle for not having a yoga practice, and I’ve felt on more than one occasion that other doulas don’t want to work with me because I don’t do yoga. I vehemently believe that it is their right to not want me to be a primary back up for literally any reason under the sun, but judging me for not doing yoga and still being a doula? …That’s kind of crazy to me. It’s not like I didn’t get certified in birth and postpartum care, it’s that I don’t stretch the same way as they do. I get that they probably incorporate yoga breath, etc., into their client care, but it’s not the primary component of attending births. It’s also something I can learn and teach outside of a yoga class. I dunno, maybe I’m overly sensitive, but the yoga pressure can feel really intense in wellness circles and it’s a bit much at times.

As female small business owners in a fringe profession, we almost always have to diversify our service offerings to make ends meat, which means picking up complimentary care modalities, of which yoga instruction is just one. I'm not claiming that becoming a yoga instructor is a piece of cake here, but it can take a lot less time than many other body work professions and there's such an abundance of studios and gyms to be a part of, that it can make sound business sense to tack this training on. Instruction creates a cyclical flow of clients, too -- You pack your classes with pregnant folks who then learn about your doula services along with doula clients who learn about your yoga classes. Since most pregnant folks are told early on about prenatal yoga, there are some lower hurdles to leap over in getting bodies into your classes. It’s a circle that makes sense. Plus, things taught in yoga classes about calming your mind and breathing, plus the physical stretching CAN be very beneficial in birth. It’s just NOT the only way to come to those practices, especially if your a pregnant person who just doesn’t like yoga. Or doesn’t like gyms. Or who doesn’t have the resources to go to an expensive class. And all of that is 100% okay.

I'm not saying a word of this with judgement about folks who participate in or teach yoga. I have judgements about the broader Western yoga culture (Ehhh $200 stretch pants? Body shaming companies? And sorry, why is no one screaming on a rooftop about cultural appropriation here?), but that's not the point I'm trying to make with this post. I’ll leave that for my happy hour ranting with friends.  

Speaking of happy hour, what about all these classes that advertise themselves as yoga, but are about drinking and socializing? That’s all fine, but is it yoga just because you wear stretch pants? Or things like trap music yoga…? Why don’t they just call it Double Appropriation of Brown People Stretching Hour instead? Restorative yoga classes are sometimes just a $20 nap. I honestly think to each their own here and you might get a lot of enjoyment out of these things, but calling any dang class with a mat “Yoga” speaks to a larger issue with the huge commodification of wellness and the entrapment of code words in that realm. Just because something is labeled “natural” or “wellness” and so forth, doesn’t mean it has anything to do with improving your health. Or at least it doesn’t need to be drilled into you that it’s mandatory if it works for some, but not for you.

No, my point here is that there is no one-size-fits-all type of wellness.

That will likely be a running theme in these articles. Just because something worked for someone else, doesn’t mean you’re wrong for not enjoying it. Just because something is “natural” doesn’t mean that it is essential to a healthy life. Yoga is not going to save you if you find it boring. It won't save you if it's cost prohibitive. It won't save you if you simply don't want it to. That goes for EVERYTHING.  Not doing yoga doesn’t make me or anyone else particularly Not centered, Not mindful, Not relaxed, Not focused, Not able to be present and calm for my clients or myself. Loads of people have come to yoga for those things, but I find ways outside of that one practice to be still and grounded. You can, too.

I try my hardest to create a system for my clients that doesn't have an air of proselytizing about any one type of care or modality when counseling them about any area of wellness. Even if deep down in my biddy heart I really really think that the evidence points toward you eating that dang pickle or taking that dang herb or doing your yoga, if you're not into it, I'm not going to push it. I truly wish more care providers were willing to do that and try to connect clients to those who are that way, too. 

If you are needing some support in your general reproductive health or with a specific reproductive health concern, in pregnancy, or in postpartum and want to connect with a consultant who will hear your needs and not try and push you down a particular path, come see me for a session. 

ps- Check out one of my all-time favorite articles on the cult of wellness and how it’s steering us wrong by Amy Larocca in The Cut.